Please read this from John Pavlovitz
No, women aren't responsible for male loneliness. Here's one of the reasons why.
There are a few things more to add to this list of causes:
Screen addictions that eat up attention for hours. This is so bad one psychologist tells men only to be home when they are actually sleeping. They should be working, volunteering, or watching a ball game at the pub rather than staying home.
A move away from physical socializing to online dating (which leads to a 1-in-a-1,000 response to a coffee date).
A stubborn refusal, which they witness in their fathers, to stop offloading responsibility for their own sexual bullying to the woman, claiming it’s her fault. This is a misogynist screed born of religious interpretation of women as temptresses who lure men into sin. So, if he does something—anything—it’s her fault.
The refusal of men to partner equally. Despite 70 years of progress, and with married women often working, women are still doing almost all the housework and errands and most of the childcare. The value of a woman’s work in the home in one year is $130,000. Most mothers of newborns are putting in a 98-hour work week.
The “mental load.” Often referred to as Toxic Incompetence, it’s a game men play to turn women into secretaries responsible for reminding them—and reminding them and reminding them and reminding them and reminding them and reminding them and reminding them and reminding them and reminding them and reminding the—until it’s just easier to take the trash out yourself than to have one more battle in the eternal Punic Wars over his doing what he’s agreed to do. Women have to remember everything. It’s exhausting.
The simple, devastating fact is that the most at-risk person in America is the man whose wife divorced him and took the kids. And the single most prevalent cause of divorce—and 75% of divorces are initiated by women—is that she’s tired of being a mom to her husband.
The group of people in America who live longest, are healthiest, and are happiest are women who have never been married and never had kids.
This is a reason that the Manosphere and the Radical Right in America—both heavily populated by men, not women—want women forced to breed and out of the work force so that not only do they have all the money (goody-goody!) but also she will be forced to marry or face poverty, often as a single mother. That’s MAGA’s solution to the fact that men are lonely: Solve it by controlling the woman.
Oh, P.S. This week the Trump administration had language on consent REMOVED from sex education curricula in American high schools. Now, I suppose, the “Nobody Told Me” excuse is going to work in court.
So, here is John Pavlovich’s marvelous article from this morning.
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